The Real Role

One of my main goals before 2013 ends is to finish this book that was given to me before I got married:

I mean, come on, its been 4 years already right? I am always telling husband that may be the reason he keeps on complaining about his wife ( jokingly, but half meant of course). 

I sure a lot of wives, more so a lot of mothers like me are trying the best they can to live this crazy life. We want the future to be the brightest possible for our family. 

But can you girls also relate that sometimes, when we are stretched to the limit, we complain about our uhmmm, predicament? We start the day preparing breakfast, fixing our kids up, making sure everything is in place before we leave. We go on to a full day at work, then as we arrive home we start making dinner without even sitting down for second. 

Your husband on the other hand, wakes up, eats breakfast, goes to work, comes home and eats dinner, and then rest. He is tired from work. Sometimes in my exhaustion, I want to scream, I can be tired too! Will no one take my place even for just one night?!

Sometimes my idle mind thinks, this is mightily unfair that I have to fullfill more tasks in a day than my husband. 

Wrong. That is how God me to be. 

Elizabeth George tells the story of her daughter Courtney: 

"Her husband, Paul was in the US Navy submarine school before 6 am to 10pm almost everday for a year. However, he had one hour of break for lunch. 

Now here's how Courtney handled it. First and most important, there was no nagging, no whining, or complaining. Instead, Courtney blocked every morning to cook a full out meal, to carefully and beautifully set the table, to make sure the children were nappedand rested, dressed and as cheerful as possible, to bake homemade cookies, and see that a thermos full of strong coffee was set by the door. At 12:10 their squealing little family was standing in the front door to welcome Daddy home.  When theie 40 minutes were up, all lined again at the door to kiss Daddy goodbye asCourtney handed Paul the thermos and a sackful of fresh cookies to help himmake it through until 10pm. 

Dear wife, this is the way it is ( or is supposed to be!). You and I are to support our husbands as they support us. We grease the skids, so to speak, by making life easier with our joy, support, encouragement,effort, creative planning and wise scheduling. That's our job assignment from God."